I drove down the freeway, the intense anger a cover-up for deep pain. I began to talk to the Lord about the situation.
Well, actually, I yelled, and pounded on my steering wheel.
“HOW CAN YOU SAY YOU KNOW WHAT I’M FEELING? HOW CAN YOU SAY YOU KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE AN UNFAITHFUL SPOUSE? YOU NEVER EVEN DATED ANYONE???”
I felt sort of “ripped off”. It didn’t seem fair that Jesus didn’t have to go through he headaches and heartaches of marriage. How could He possibly understand what it’s like to be married?
In the midst of my angry outburst, He spoke, His voice soft and gentle:
“Tami, who is my bride?”
Stunned, I thought for a moment, then said, “The church.”
“Yes. Where is she, and what is she doing?”
I began to consider His point.
Jesus claimed the church – us believers – for His bride, His own. That makes us His fiance; and what a fiance we are…hateful, deceitful, quarrelsome – more interested in His rival and his trinkets than in our Beloved – all the while claiming to dearly love Jesus.
Looked at from this perspective, I realize that Jesus understands far more than I ever imagined:
He knows the silence of neglect.
He “gets” being misunderstood.
He’s been on the receiving end of harsh words and accusations.
He knows the heartache of being involved with someone who wants the title, “Married,” but doesn’t want to quit “playing the field.”
He’s felt the pain of an unfaithful lover. He knows what it’s like to lose her to an unworthy rival.
He’s dealt with the addictions of His bride – and all the pain that accompanies these problems.
He understands “date night.” That’s about all He gets from her…an hour and a half on Sunday; a watched clock to ensure that He doesn’t take up too much time.
If He’s lucky, she might show up again for an hour or so on Wednesday. The rest of the week, she often lives as if He didn’t exist. “My life is none of Your business,” He’s frequently told.
He’s felt the searing pain of abandonment. The grief of having His lover walk away and lay in the arms of another.
Listen to this:
“But you have not called upon Me, O Jacob;
And you have been weary of Me, O Israel.
You have not brought Me the sheep for your burnt offerings,
Nor have you honored Me with your sacrifices.
I have not caused you to serve with grain offerings,
Nor wearied you with incense.
You have bought Me no sweet cane with money,
Nor have you satisfied Me with the fat of your sacrifices;
But you have burdened Me with your sins,
You have wearied Me with your iniquities.
Oh yeah, He certainly can empathize with all facets of a lousy marriage.
He loves us and is eagerly awaiting our union.
That floors me.
He is encouraging us even now, during the final days of our courtship to commit ourselves completely to Him. His desire is that we wean ourselves away from catering to, flirting with, and serving His enemy – Satan.
Praise His name that He has not simply commanded us to do this, but is willing to walk through the process step by step. Through the power of His Presence, we are able to become victors.
As we experience His patience and forgiveness, we come to love Him at a greater depth. When we begin to sense His deep, abiding love for us, His faithfulness to us no matter what, our eyes are opened a bit more to the wonders of being cherished.
Oh, Lord, open our eyes that we may see and comprehend what is the width and length and depth and height – to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that we may be filled with all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:18-19 NKJV)
Jesus owns a “Been There,
Done That Still Doing That” T-shirt.
He “gets” it.
Let Him comfort you as you work through the issues of this holy and sacred covenant relationship.